I recently went up to Edinburgh for two days’ work and two days’ play, minus kids. One evening, I went for dinner on my own, unusual for me, but it allowed for much-needed reflection and simply quietness.
I was busy making notes after having a phenomenal dinner, (Scran and Scallie – amazing) and had said no to the dessert, Bruno, my waiter, retorted: “BUT having dinner without dessert is like a story without an ending”.
It struck me because he said it so emphatically, as though this was just an impossible outcome, I was taken aback, in an amusing way.
So, why did this hit home so much?
When we are stuck in our everyday life, we don’t sit and think about what the ending will be, sounds morose I realise, but stick with me. What we do allow ourselves to do is to get trapped in the monotony of our jobs, routines, to-do lists, and being the ‘norm’. And we don’t often push for what the reason is, right now, for doing what we are doing, nor do we look at the wanted outcome, THE ENDING, in whatever our scenario may be.
For example, if we are struggling with a balance, we are commuting for hours every day, in a job we hate, or love but don’t know the aim of the game, this is the story without an ending unless you put your wanted ‘endings’, in place.
Why are we constantly just making do with what we have, believing that there are no other options?
Because it seems just too bl**dy hard to do anything about it. You have no time, no ideas on what you would like to do, lost your spark, and can’t remember what interests you, and the thought of changing it seems like the biggest obstacle, so you give up and make do.
I was doing all of the above, not happy in either work or life. Coaching gave me a game plan, a view of the ending I wanted for that particular time.
Consider this:
If you could have a dedicated time, every month, in which to unload your thoughts to someone completely unbiased to your situation and come up with a game plan for you, work, life or both, would you?
- Do you want to elicit a much more rapid growth in you or your business?
- Do you want it to be long-term change?
- Do you want your life to be different?
- Do you believe there is more than you have got right now?
I did and do so now. If it hadn’t been for coaching, I would still be trapped.
The CPD has put together a great article about personal development planning which can get you started, click here
We repeatedly work with clients who are lost, feel numb in their existence, don’t know what to do and can’t see a way out of their current situation. What is worse there is that there is no plan to change this. If you’re curious to see how we could help, head to our services.
